Preteen Bible Study “Where Do I Fit In?”
We will be kicking off our very first Bible study on Monday! Our first topic is, “Where do I fit in?” This first study will only be 2 weeks long. We will read a different scripture each day, Monday through Friday. After, this first two weeks, we will take a short break and start back with another topic!
This is the first time we have done an online Bible study and we are very excited to be sharing it with you! You can read about how we will be doing things here. Please, follow us on FaceBook at Sweet Dreams Sisters for girls and Goodnight Guys for boys. Look for our responses to the verses each day and a blog to sum everything up at the end of the week. Subscribe to BeForever31.com to get email updates!!
From Tymothe and Laila:
Do you feel like you just can’t find a place to fit it? Sometimes you feel like playing with toys, but you really feel silly or think someone will make fun of you if they find out? You want to hang out with your older siblings and cousins, but you don’t really know how to act around them? The adults just seem like they don’t want you in the room, and you are a little too shy to be in there anyway?
Sometimes, we feel the same way! This what we are going to be talking about with this first Bible study. We want to learn to feel more confident and be more mature so we can “fit in” in any situation and we don’t have to feel alone or left out. We want our attitudes and our personalities to be good so that others come to us for conversations instead of us having to search out a place to belong.
We hope you will join us as we look to the Bible to help us find answers!
This is our Reading Plan for the week of January 12th-16th:
A note from Mom to the parents/guardians of the preteens involved in this study:
I have noticed, as my 2 oldest children have matured into preteens over the last year or two, they are having a hard time knowing where they fit in. Of course, they feel like they are a little too old to “play” with toys. I mean, occasionally they will play with things if there are smaller children around who want to. They want to be in on more adult type activities, but they really are not mature enough to be involved in some of the adult conversations. They know about politics and current events, but they aren’t old enough to have a good solid opinion to offer in a group of adults. They are shy for this reason, or maybe they over assert themselves to make sure they are heard. Maybe, there are even older teens around that will hang out with them for a while, but when it comes down to it, they aren’t allowed some of the freedoms that the older kids have yet, so they don’t have a lot in common with them. Either way, they just don’t feel as though they fit in anywhere and it leaves them feeling lonely, bored, and cast out.
I think that, as parents, we need to try and help our preteens find a place socially. My kids are very outgoing, but need to be introduced before they really feel comfortable in a crowd. I also, try to encourage them by not only introducing them to other children, but also introducing them to the adults. I find that it makes things so much better if I introduce them and say something positive about them. For example, If I am meeting a new neighbor and I see they have younger kids, I may say, “This is my daughter, Laila. She loves younger children! I think she is going to grow up and be a teacher. She is so good with her little brother!”
This not only gives Laila a boost in confidence, it also helps her feel like its ok for her to play with the younger kids without everyone thinking she likes “playing with toys.” This also shows the adult that I am talking to that Laila is not an annoying kid that “just needs to go play and leave us alone,” but that she is mature, able to be trusted and deserving of respect. This sets her up to be able to interact with both age groups in the room.
I would like to encourage you to think about how you set up social situations for your preteens and consider helping them get comfortable before you begin socializing with your friends. Remember, they still trying to find their place and a little boost of confidence helps a lot!
Invite your friends to join this study with their preteens! Please, let us know if there is anything you would like to see us discuss in our upcoming studies! We welcome your feedback!